It has never ceased to amaze me just how many various ways girls seek for reimbursement when it comes to boys.
When a girl is frustrated or feels inadequate or cheated in relation to boys, she seeks for something to balance the scales.
This may include an "I hate boys" night-- in which you may get a big piece of cardboard and fill one side with the things you love and the other side with things you hate. Then proceed to draw a target on the "hate" side and then give it hell with a few arrows.
Not that we've ever done that..
It may include an intensive depression spree filled with $20 worth of junk food (or much more depending on the length of depression.)
Start this clip at 2:42 to get a glimpse into just how disgusting this sort of thing can become.
The thing with these sorts of things though is that they're internal. For some stupid reason, you're validating the "need" to be pathetic and are taking full advantage of said crime. You can hold grudges and mutter curses and stop showering and sleeping properly and put on 10 pounds of ice cream fat but really, those things are just destroying yourself.
But then girls take it to the next notch.
They make it their goal in life to make the poor boy miserable.
As he should be.
(or so I'm told)
I can't even tell you how many times I've had someone support me in very clearly making a boy pay for the pain he has caused you.
My guess is that most of the time he doesn't notice and even he does notice, I doubt he cares.
It's often the stupidest things like not texting him back. Yeah... that will teach him. I bet that poor sap who just turned you down is practically in tears because you just did exactly what he has been indicating he would appreciate from you. The silence is probably more of a gift than a punishment.
Funny thing is, it rarely gets more serious than that. Sure, we plot evil schemes to egg your house but does anyone actually ever do that? Not unless you're truly psychotic like in Obsessed but most of the time a pint of Ben and Jerry's sounds a lot more appealing.
I'm just oddly fascinated by this stress put on "punishing" boys. It's taught and supported by girls-- that they need to pay for what they've done and that a girl should drop cruel hints until he understands the pain he has caused in your life.
How does it even make sense to shut down and be unresponsive as a way to get back at him and make him suffer for what is no longer available to him?
There's gotta be something better to focus your time and efforts on..
It's not only girls to girls. It's mostly a type of person. Clarissa told me about a companion she had on her mission who got mad at something Clarissa said and to make her 'pay' just wouldn't talk to her anymore.
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